If you are a man who experiences difficulty reaching orgasm or delayed ejaculation, please know that you are not alone! Approximately 5-10% of cisgender men experience difficulty reaching orgasm or experience delayed ejaculation during partnered sexual acts. Delayed ejaculation can mean that the person is unable to ejaculate after sufficient arousal and stimulation or ejaculates infrequently enough to the point that it causes the individual psychological and emotional suffering and worry.

Setting boundaries can be uncomfortable, especially if you’ve experienced pushback, anger, or resentment in the past. The fear of losing that connection or the thought/feeling that saying “no” is selfish is very real and can hold us back from honoring our well-being.